Maximizing Life

People often say 'be patient', 'be strong' etc, although we realize that most of the time its not as easy as its uttered like the Malay saying goes "Berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul" which more or less translates "Seeing is believing, but shouldering it really hurts".

On the other side, those who are not under that circumstance to feel so are
often being ignorant to what they get and have. Ask yourself, how many times you've heard people say 'My life is boring', 'Life sucks' or write 'What a boring day' on their Facebook, YM status or even an essay elaborating their 'dullness/boringness of the day' on blog. Open your eyes, mind, heart and get something to work on. Get a life.

Or what about maximize your battery life?

Well..its not like I have never been bored. Its easy to get away from it though once you know your target. I remember back when I just finished my GCSE last year, I had three months of summer holiday. I targeted to read a lot of National Geographic magazines, look over the Tafsir book and try to understand it, finish reading some of my dad's interesting books, memorise some surahs and work on something that I better keep as a secret and others. The tafsir one is hard, really. But then its fine cos the tafsir class would ease it. Then one of the books I managed to finish was 'A Long Walk to Freedom' by Nelson Mandela which left me pondering of how I have many more things to treasure!

Yesterday, I watched a tv program called 'You The White' which was hosted by an Ugandan boy. I was surprised when a group of Ugandan pupils was excited trying to switch on the lamp, changing the tv channel and even flushing the toilet! This program talks about what these Ugandan kids think of White people and how some of them wished they were whites. And yet, at the end of the program, a boy called Eria (I think) said that he is grateful to God for giving him life cos otherwise he wont be in this world. The life he loved.

Here is a post written by a man who I consider as a very determined person. He is one of FuiYo (Fun with IluvIslam's Youth in Overseas) 09 speakers of which I went;

Reasonable VS False Hope

I was given a thirty-days-to-live prognosis. It was lung cancer. I'd previously had one lung removed. Now, four months later, the cancer was back. This time it was in my ribs and lymph system. The surgeon put his hand on my shoulder and said,

"The tiger is out of the cage. Your cancer has come roaring back. I would give you about thirty days to live."

Part of the reason that the surgeon was mistaken is that
no healthcare provider can predict a person's response to illness. After several days of believing I would die, I made a profound decision.

I decided to live.

Please understand clearly what I am saying. By deciding to live I made a decision to do all I could to triumph over the cancer. I was determined to live each day I was given to the very best of my ability. I chose not to focus on the despair communicated in the surgeon's words. I would instead adopt a stance of hopefulness. These decisions dramatically changed my experience of illness. They resulted not only in better days but many more days as well. I believe such decision by you may result in a similar outcome.

"Hope is some extraordinary spiritual grace that God gives us to control our fears, not to oust them..."

This message has its vocal critics. It's controversial. More than once, esteemed members of the health-care community have publicly accused me of spreading false hope. My answer is simple and direct.

I believe there is no such thing as false hope. There is only REASONABLE hope. Reasonable hope is a medicine worthy of consumption in large doses.

What is clearly false is a doctor's pronouncement that sets a limit on the amount of time a patient may have left to live. That's
"false hopelessness". It is false because no human being knows how long anyone has left to live.

My response to the surgeon was strong. I said,

"Thank you doctor. You've given me thirty days to live. Wow! That's wonderful because God only gives me one day at a time!"

Healers instill hope. They do not schedule death.

There is no such thing as hopeless. Decide to live - today!
Embrace hope deep within your spirit. It heals. It is a decision that always lead to greater quality in our days. I also believe it leads to a greater quantity of our days.

Two paths are before you. One is marked by the road signs of passivity and despair;the other by the guideposts of ENGAGEMENT and HOPE. You have a choice.

choose hope.

If you have been told that your time is limited, believe that life can still be a fulfilling adventure. Choose to live life to the very fullest.
Focus on the possibilities, not the problem. Affirm that each day is a good and perfect gift in spite of the circumstances of illness.

Keep you thoughts on hope and healing. In that intentional choice are the seeds of your cancer recovery. Water those seeds, not the weeds.

Without question, you can improve your potential for survival. What you do makes a significant difference.
Believe it: there is no such thing as a hopeless situation.

*Taken from "Cancer: 50 Essential Things To Do" by Greg Anderson.


I have been given a similar so-called 'death sentence'. 3 months has passed, and by the will of Allah, here I am, still standing, still given the chance to strive. And I believe, it is a sign from my Creator that He wants me to not lose hope just yet.

Even when the world says "Give up Mas!", hope whispers "Try it one more time."

And I, will therefore keep on battling.

May Allah's love always be with you bro.


Anonymous said…
bella, i always wanted to tell you this..but i forgot..

here it goes..

subhanallah! i love ur blog!
sangat matured. and i love the way u wrote ur blog :D

i love the content as well as too :)

i wish i can write something like this too. but..i cant.. :(

mira macam xmatured je.. :(

asyik2 cakap pasal my life je..on the second thought, its more to my private journal drpd blog!sedih..

Qurrata 'Ayun said…
Thank you myra!

I am sure you are able to write something mature and interesting with your sweetiness =D

go go myra ;)
siti zulaikha said…
merenung pesan Hasan al-Banna bahawa kewajipan kita jauh lebih banyak berbanding masa, tidakkah pernah kita rasa berdosa, andai terkeluh bicara, “bosan, tak tahu nak buat apa!”

To realize the value of ONE YEAR,

Ask a student who failed his or her final exam.

To realize the value of ONE MONTH,

Ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of ONE WEEK,

Ask an editor of a weekly magazine.

To realize the value of ONE DAY,

Ask a daily wage laborer who has six kids to feed.

To realize the value of ONE HOUR,

Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of ONE MINUTE,

Ask a person who missed his or her train.

To realize the value of ONE SECOND,

Ask the person who survived an accident.

To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND,

Ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.


To realize the value of this precious LIFE,

Ask the person who is now six feet under!

- Quoted from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey, page 127 [the last two sentences are from my addition (ustaz Hasrizal)]

So when you have finished (from your occupation), then stand up for the next duty. And to your Lord (Alone) turn (all your intentions and hopes and) your invocations. [Al-Sharh 94: 7-8]
salam bella,
it has been a while since i read your blog. Ya know what girl, I'm impressed! and I'm happy that UK had not change you into ENGLISH...hahaha...

and I read Masafzal's blog too. it is indeed wonderful.

keep writing ya....=)
Qurrata 'Ayun said…
Jazakumullah khairan kathir for dropping by peeps.

A very nice advice, Zulaikha. Simple but deep. Thanks for sharing ya!
Qurrata 'Ayun said…
> Rayyan.

I couldnt stop myself from grinning ok. LOL. Perhaps into WELSH? ^_____^

Britain had obviously changed me (4 years!) but hopefully in a very good manner inshallah.
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