Saturday, 17 September 2011

Need a push

How I miss writing...

One of my greatest passions I am losing,

Clueless on what am I waiting,

Before, now and then.

Will you wait for the comeback,

street musicians @ Stockholm, Sweden

Thursday, 5 May 2011

The Phenomena of illegal sex: Whose fault?

I don't know what else to post and there's an urge to do so, so here I post my assignment. well, a positive anything is better than a negative nothing! ^^


BY: Nur Nabilah Muhaimin,

for Understanding Islam, Us. Maulana, cfsiium, May 2011.

The Phenomena of illegal sex: Whose fault?

Everyone is responsible to prevent social disease in the society through playing their role efficiently. When one fails to do so, the disease will spread passively and it can lead to another disease and thus become something that is unmanageable. This suits an English proverb that goes “Prevention is better than cure”. As soon as a disease is identified, the doctor will trace what had caused it. The factors will be a reference to others in order to avoid the same disease occurring in other people.

In this case, we will find out what influence one to commit illegal sex since it has become a serious disease in recent years. Illegal sex in Islam is when one does any type of sexual intercourse with anybody apart from his/her lawful spouse. It can be fornication, adultery, rape and others.

The doers are obviously the ones who are to be blamed on but it is also the faults of those who don’t take in responsibility. It’s not merely an individual's fault.


Foremost is family factor. Family plays a major role in shaping one’s personality.

Some of the parents of broken marriages will end up being a single mother or father. Some children find it stressful as they are longing for love and attention. This leads them to find other love from guys whom they tend to trust more than they trust their parents. They find sexual intercourse as a proof of love and trust. Children who are well connected to family are unlikely to involve in illegal sex as family is their first priority.

Besides that, there are parents who are too busy with worldly affairs that they forget that children are ‘trust’ from Allah. They simply leave the responsibility to educate the children about Islam to teachers like monitoring kids’ progress, watching out with who they befriend, listening to their problems and advising on all aspects of life. This is how parents can grow seeds of trust in their children before it’s too late to do so which is during childhood and adolescent.[1] How important parents' role is stressed in a Hadith, “‘Every child is born in a state of nature bound (fitrah). Then his parents make him a Jew, a Christian or a Magian."[2]


Contemporary media’s role is becoming more crucial as it directly influences people’s mentality. It’s an indirect educational medium. However, the exploitation of girls in today’s media makes it spoiled. It's becoming serious recently because some of the girls show off their body and give seductive poses shamelessly. Most of them are celebrities who should be a role model to their fans not the otherwise. When eyes see this, it can somehow trigger the brain to have more imaginations which heads them to watch porno videos or read porno magazines like Playboys. This in turn increase the curiousity and makes them want to apply it practically. The practical can be as easy as getting services from prostitutes to as dangerous as raping and molesting kids.

In electronic and print media, especially TV that clearly exploit young ladies through the adverts in order to promote their business products. For example in, adverts for LUX, a personal care brand that shows young ladies having a shower or bath. Though it’s not showing the whole body, most people assume that she’s naked. In some adverts, the action shown has no relation with the product. Protecting their dignity is the reason why Muslim women have their own dress code which Quran highlighted in Surah Al-Ahzab:59, "O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful."[3]

Furthermore, the pictures of celebrities who overly pose for magazines like MANGGA, REMAJA, URTV, HAI and MASCULINE who are not only wearing sexy outfits but also mix freely between men-women such as hugging as if they are promoting those behaviours to the readers. This is added with movies and music videos with sexual contents which can be accessed just at the fingertips! [4]

Media’s party should be more sensitive on these issues as whether they realize or not, they are promoting free mixing between men and women to viewers and readers. The fact that people are served with semi-porn is so serious since it has a big potential to lead them to commit illegal sex.


Leaders are the representatives of government. Their personality mirrors the people’s identity. The leaders must be well-mannered, know barriers between men and female and courage on implementing Islamic law. You can’t really expect the people to be good if the leaders can’t be a good icon to them.

The government is the one who decides what kind of law will be enforced in a country, either civil law or shariah law. In our country, though both kinds of law are enforced, the Hudud law remains under the jurisdiction of the secular courts.[5] Shariah law mostly covers cases within Muslim family. The correct punishments (Hudud) for committing an illicit sex are 100 lashes for an unmarried person/fornicator and stone to death for a married person/adulterer.[6]

But, currently in Malaysia, the sentence for fornicators and adulterers is imprisonment for 3 years the most or a fine not exceeding 500 ringgit or whipping of 6 strokes the most or to any combination thereof.[7] The sentence imposed seems far infirm than Hudud which implies illegal sex as a light crime. From the increase of the case number, we can assume that it fails to ignite fears in those who are thinking to commit illicit sex.

Visiting discos and pubs are usually the first step towards illicit sex and just like a root to it. Those places are commonly associated with a perfect place and night to relax and unwind for empty-heart-ed people. With an addition of the presence of alcohol drinks, most just get drowned with lust and are likely to commit illegal sex.

However, number of ‘Muslim’ pub visitors can be decreased if the authority like Jakim is given more power to do inspection in order to arrest Muslims who are caught visiting pubs and discos as well as taking alcohol. A rule to disallow Muslims to enter those places must also be applied. For example, the pub’s party must prohibit Muslim to enter the pub. After all, only the government has an authority to implement that. If they can disallow under-age people to enter and fine the pub, why not Muslims?

[1] Ken J. Rotenberg, Interpersonal Trust During Childhood and Adolescence, (New York, United States of America, Cambridge University Press, 2010), page 60.

[2] Herbert Berg, Method and Theory in the Study of Islamic Origins, (Leiden, The Netherlands, Brill, 2003), page 74.

[3] 'Abdullah Yusuf Ali, The Holy Qur'an Text and Translation, (Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, Islamic Book Trust, 2007), page 518.

[4] Jane Delano Brown, Jeanne R. Steele, Kim Walsh-Childers, Sexual Teens, Sexual Media: Investigating Media's Influence on Adolescent Sexuality, (New Jersey, United States, Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc, 2002), page 15.

[5] Akbar S. Ahmed, Hastings Donnan, Islam, Globalization and Post Modernity, (London, United Kingdom, Taylor & Francis e-Library, 2005), page 67.

[6] Thomas Patrick Hughes, A Dictionary of Islam, (New Delhi, India, Asian Educational Services, 2001), page 286.

[7], Zakiah Bt. Samori, Qarinah (Circumstancial Evidence) In Adultery (Zina) Case: Analysis on Four Madhab & Provision In Malaysia And Pakistan, page 10, accessed on 22/4/2011 at 5.35pm.

Wednesday, 30 March 2011

Little things: Pusat Asasi UIAM ||

Interested to see how UIA PJ Campus look like? There's absolutely no need to travel milesss to get an insight of it, just point the arrow on your computer screen to the PLAY button of these videos and you'll feel like you're here!

*The first post regarding UIA PJ is the post before this*

The videos are taken using the so-called tricopter(?) or helicopter which has the size about your study table by the CFS ITD (Info Tech Dept) guy. One of the guys who built that said most people thought the little helicopter is like typical one where little boys control it using remote-control. The truth is it has a video camera attached...which is why everyone looks all relaxed here. No posing, No showing off, No faking!


The big building in front of CFS gate is Pharmaceutical factory or research centre...I think. Right side of CFS is Pasar Malam Selasa area where you can see quite a lot foreigners shopping(stall-ing?) Malaysian foods. The best thing is they have aiskrim goreng (fried ice-cream). Facing Pasar Malam is JayaOne, the nearest place to CFS to do groceries. Mid-Valley is also quite close to here...15-20 mins by bus.


You know what, you can ask me things around Swansea or T.I but not PJ. The only places I've been to are Mid, JayaOne, Pasar Malam and KL-Sentral...LoL. I was a lost tourist without a map and is still the one :P

See you again inshallah (;


Thursday, 24 March 2011

Little things: Centre for Foundation Studies Uia PJ

Though only have been an observer for a few months in Cfs (Pusat Asasi UIAM), I hope I don't put off the hopes of those who asked for the info! (:


For those who are under foundation of Laws, Architecture & Design (AED), Medic, Engineering (ENGIN), ICT, Physical Science (PHYSC), Biological Science (BIOSC), Dentistry (DENTI), Allied Health Science (ALLHS), Nursing (NUS) and Pharmacy (PMACY), they reside in CFS IIUM in Petaling Jaya.

[Pic 1: Fatimah college]

Another CFS IIUM in Nilai locates those who do Foundation in Human Science (HS), Islamic Revealed Knowledge (IRK), Economics (ECONS), English and Arabic.


Starting from my batch (2010), the core courses taken for certain programs are the same. For example, students of Biosc, Pmacy, Nus, Medic, Allhs and Denti do exactly the same core courses - Math1,2, Bio1,2, Phys1,2, Chem1,2. (Note that there might be any changes). On the other hand, Engin and Physc share the same core courses - Math1,2,3, Phys1,2, Chem1,2, Comp2. What differentiate them is only the passing pointer.

I'm not sure about ICT and other courses. This means its possible for people from different programs to be in the same class.

The duration of study for AED, Medic, Allhs, Pmacy and Denti is either 1 year or 2 years since there's only one degree intake for them. Biosc, Physc, Engin, Law, Ict can be 1, 1.5 or 2 years. I apologize for not knowing the others.


The elective subjects for all foundation studies are Computer 1, Basic Theme Al-Qur'an, Undestanding Islam (for non-religious school background) or Religion in Malaysia (for religious school background). These will count towards your CGPA.

[Pic 2: KC, left and UKC, right]

Furthermore, those who don't get exempted for English Placement Test (EPT) and Arabic Placement Test (APT) have to take the language subject until they pass the level required. Everyone has to pass level 6 for English. The arabic level required vary depending on the
course. If you happen to be a science-based course student, you only go up to level 2. Whereas for non-science based student, they have to go up to level 4 and every level is harder than science's ones. For Laws, you only have to complete level 2 if you wanna do civil, otherwise you got to finish level 4 to do Syariah. APT and EPT affect your duration of study.

Every English level costs you 9 hours p/week and every Arabic level costs you 6 hours p/week. Which is a lot, given that they don't play any role on your CGPA. So better get exempted as soon as possible! But let me tell you something about Arabic level 1 and 2 for pre-science, unless you don't come to the lecture and don't give a little bit of effort, there's nearly no way you can't pass (50%) level 1 and 2. It's easy to pass!

Last but not least is Fardu Ain class - 1 hour p/week. It's in your timetable every term. No role too on your CGPA. Yes yes yes I know, most of you would say there is a lot of subjects here. I heard that quite often. They probably intend to produce more efficient people....I don't know.


There are two sections which are reading and writing. More than 5 reading materials are there. The reading one gets harder and harder as you flick the page. I remember I just circle any answer that looks interesting to me for the last two articles. Cos it was long and I just couldn't be bothered to read it. Be Caution: Don't copy me as you might just think like me once you sit for it.

[Pic 3: ZC]

Being good at grammar solely doesn't guarantee you pass level 6. You need to use wider range of vocabulary. For example, (1) don't only use "This picture shows" repeteadly, use "This implies", "This records" etc. (2) Avoid using "also" many times, instead try "moreover", "besides that"etc.


It has two sections too - reading and writing. Everything is in arabic including the question command. Get yourself familiar with synonyms, antonyms, numbers and time. You get quite a lot of mark for essays, so just write something.

Mahallah in Cfs PJ

There are 6 mahallahs here - 4 for brothers and 2 for sisters. Brothers' ones are Fatimah College (by the main gate), Umar Al Khattab College, UKC (next to football field), Abu Bakar College, ABC (by the mosque) and Aisyah College (next to ABC). Only ABC and UKC have their own cafe.

[Pic 4: ABC]

Sisters occupy Khadijah College, KC (by football field) and Zainab Jahsy College, ZC (facing ABC). Well if you ask me, which one is the best, I'd say ZC since I stay there...but it really is! Despite the smaller room it provides, ZC has cafe, photocopy shop, cybercafe, kiosk (shop), air-cond musolla, netball court, badminton court, gymnasium - all in the ground floor.

The good thing about KC is its bigger rooms. Furthermore, it has a small canteen which you can only take-away not eat-in, gymnasium in level 9, non-air cond musolla, netball court and kiosk. Though they don't have a photocopy shop, there is one in UKC which slightly faces KC. And for cybercafe, the nearest one to them is in Celpad but brothers occupy it most of the time and thus some sisters prefer to go to ZC's which is a little bit further.

Bear in mind, both gymnasiums are most probably not like the one in your mind. Most exercise-machines, if that's what you call them, no longer work automatically. It works manually. I wish they replace those someday....write a suggestion letter if you wanna. No harm doing that.

I don't think I can jot down much things about brothers' mahallahs since I've never been inside any of them (apart from UKC cafe + photocopy shop). Most of the infos are 'what I heard'. But I'll try.

[Pic 5: Aisyah college]

Firstly, Fatimah College, fyi, some fellows and lecturers lived in that building but only in level 1 and 2. The students stay in level 3 and 4 as they supposedly have more energy! Many said its like an apartment and since they have no cafes, those lucky brothers have to travel quite many steps, crossing the football field to get to their nearest cafe, UKC. See I told ya, they must be fit to do so every single day!

Secondly, UKC. I don't have any idea. So next is ABC. Its like a dorm not a room. Have 4 levels. No lift. Lastly, Aisyah. It's the biggest boys mahallah. Sorry peeps, I'm clueless!

*All pictures are not mine. Taken from internet. Credit to the photographers.

Will be continued~~

Wednesday, 16 March 2011

Summarise me

I just realized that I've never introduced myself as the author of Honeydewww's blogposts..

Assalamualaikum, Selamat, Hello, Bonjour, Ni hao, Vanakkam, Hola, Ciao!

I'm Nur Nabilah Muhaimin, the host of Qurrata 'Ayun blog. I started blogging in 2007 when I was living in Britain and thus, most of my writings here talk about what I went through back then. So, don't get confused when reading my post before and after December '10 since I'm located in Malaysia currently.

Being born in Sept 1992 in Teluk Intan, Perak, Malaysia makes it my hometown albeit Swansea, Wales was my temporary hometown. A happy daughter to Muhaimin Sulam & Wan Noraidah Wan Ismail and also a cheeky sister to Nur Najihah, I was born in a colourful family. Having Jawa/Java blood from my father's side as well as my grandparents from my mother's side being Thailand/Siam and Arab ancestry have surprisedly made me Malay! My teacher once teased me when I told him about my family, he went "Then what are you??" with a funny face.

Regardless of my background, I only (half)master Malay and English, a bit of Arabic and French and a tiny tiny little bit of Jawa, Welsh and Thai. Someone asked me on formspring "How to improve english grammar apart from by reading?" My answer was "Start writing something in English like a diary or blog and try to use a wide range of vocabulary with help from and this can increase your vocabulary and thus making it easier to form sentences. Besides, when listening to an English conversation, listen to it carefully and watch their grammar usage."

My first school is Sra Al-Munir where I had my UPSR. Then, I started secondary school with Smka Tok Bachok and then moved to Smk Seri Perak. At the age of 14, I attended a British school called Bishop Gore Comprehensive School where I did O-level and started A-level. At the same time, I went to Swansea College for a year. Oh, I skipped PMR and SPM.

>>> Once upon a time, a visit to the Maqam of Syuhada Karbala
in Dimashq, Syria.

Some issues raised when I wanted to continue my another year A-level in Malaysia, thus I changed to a foundation study. Centre for Foundation Studies, International Islamic University Malaysia (UIAM) accepted my application and here I am. If you happen to be around there, do say Hello to me! I'd be more than happy to know you.

This might sounds weird...but tap water used to be my favourite. Tap water in most places around UK can be drank unlike in Malaysia...therefore there's absolutely no need to heat the water (in order to drink) or even filter it. It's cold. My habit in the morning was to drink it before taking breakfast and I'm always tempted to do so in here! ...and I even slipped once.

I'm into volunteering. The world I knew from FOSIS, ISOC, Islamic Relief (IR), Muslim Aid, British Red Cross, Amnesty etc during my wayfaring in Swansea. I'd really love to join Islamic Relief Malaysia's programs but sadly, they didn't email me like they said when I filled up the member form. I miss street collection where you hold a bucket in the street wearing IR shirts and asking people if they have changes and want to donate. I have never tried it in Malaysia but it sure will be exciting to do in your own country.

I used to draw zirraffe and zebra a lot.
I prefer turquoise and lime green.
I miss Swansea.
I really really really want to eat the cheese savoury baguette like the one in my school!!
I like crabs but allergic to it.
I love jubah/jilbabs.
I own an Oxygen mobile.
I tried and liked Mee Darik from Dong Yi Shun Restaurant.
I don't really drink hot drinks.
I have facebook, formspring, friendster and blogspot.
I have a passion for reading, travelling and cycling.
I find it hard to write though I have two blogs.
I dream of becoming an amazing person!
( one does?)

14 years in Malaysia + 4 years in the UK = 18 years of being a Muslim.

All praises to Allah for everything!

from Perak with love,

Monday, 14 February 2011

Cos I have Him next to me

I'm longing those times

craving for those
'should's and 'shouldn't's

wanting those ex-unwanted lists

getting away from the approaching so-called 'trends'

Keeping the word 'understand' closer


deep there,

I know I was right

Cos you lost what I won.


"Time will heal, honey"

Insya Allah

[picture:an accessory]

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Industri seni & Islam

Since the poster says everything, I shall elaborate nothing :D


Toddler's dressing area Montessori style

Ever since I had a look at Montessori, I have tried to set up spaces at home according to its principles. I find it compatible with my littl...